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I Was Right There With You

by Rachel Barry

I’ve found that Orgasmic Meditation is a perfect complement to the sacred practices that are central to my life. In those 15 minutes of stroking in the nest, there’s a certain stillness and expanded awareness that OM helps me tap into almost effortlessly. And you don’t have to be a virtuoso, as the practice is so accessible and rich with benefits, even if you’re new to it.

OM's Unique Nature

I’d first heard about OM from one of my girlfriends. I noticed that she was looking especially beautiful and radiant, and it was because she was practicing OM. She told me how much the practice was doing for her life and about the way it was opening her up, which got me curious. Yet, it was quite a bit later when I tried it for myself with my partner. 

My first impression was that OM had elements of a sexual experience but was quite different. OM is about resting in stillness. During the stroking practice, there is definitely a lot of energy moving through me, but I find a meditative place within it. In that sense, it’s a beautiful teacher.

Grounding Effect

I was also struck by the way the practice is set up, which is very unique because it has clear and precise steps. Without every little part of the OM routine, I don’t think I would feel as safe to drop into it. But I do, and I appreciate all the guidelines around OM that preserve its container. The men that I’ve practiced with all really stick to that structure.

As I progressed with OM, I found that it fit beautifully into my life. My day can be pretty hectic and full-on, and I’m working with other people in charged situations all the time. I often have an OM in the middle of my day, and the practice really grounds and centers me. It brings me back into my body. There is really no goal. There’s no expectation or striving to achieve anything. Just being is enough.

Solace in OM

Before OM, I had often struggled to be still. For people who can’t get into meditation easily, the practice can really open the door. In the West, sometimes we try to meditate as people in the East who live in the mountains do, but since we run on so much adrenaline, it’s not feasible that, all of a sudden, we can sit in stillness and silence. It doesn’t work that way. With OM, you have a tool to help you get back into your body. And it’s a really fun way to learn.

As a person who has dealt with anxiety, I’ve found a lot of solace in OM. When I was going through a difficult time, OM would help get me out of my mind and back into my body very quickly. You can't not be in your body in OM. I’ve found that to be really potent when I needed it. 

Enhanced Communication

Another benefit that blew me away was how OM enhanced my way of communicating. I was the kind of person who, like many women, didn’t want to offend. The practice involves requesting adjustments to your partner’s stroking so you learn to ask for what you desire. Maybe you want a faster stroke or a slower one, a lighter touch or a heavier one. With OM, you have permission to ask for adjustments as many times as you like, and your request will be listened to. 

That’s a potent tool for women like me, who are taught from a young age that it’s not always okay to communicate what we like or the truth of how we feel. OM helps us find our voice and speak. For reasons like that, I recommend that a lot of my clients learn to OM as well. It's very beneficial for couples in particular because they get a chance to practice speaking honestly to each other, which can only deepen their relationship.

OM's Magical Connection

At the end of an OM, during the sharing or “frames” portion, I love hearing about what the experience was like for my stroker, too. Often, I’m in my own world during the stroking and unaware of their journey or what they’re going through. Sometimes, we find moments of connection—say, an electric current that we both felt at the same time. We’ll say, “I was right there with you.” 

That’s when you realize that, even though it’s a meditation, OM is about shared experience and connection, too. And it’s pretty magical.

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