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Bringing Feminine Power Into My Business

by Stephanie

After my divorce, I began searching for a new level of freedom. I was in my late 40s and had only been with one man, and I was wondering would anyone ever love me again? Would anyone ever think I was desirable again? I really wanted to get to a new level of self-love and confidence where I didn’t have to worry about my body and what people thought of it.

Discovering OM

At one point, I was sitting in a room of 800 people at this amphitheater in New York City, and a woman onstage was talking about OM. After the event, I checked it out, and I thought, “That’s so weird, it’s cool.” The idea of just lying there, half-naked, receiving pleasure was mind-boggling. During sex, I was always so busy trying to give back to the guy that the idea of simply receiving made me uncomfortable. But I knew it was a good idea to get beyond that, so I figured I would sign up for an event.

Unfortunately, I couldn’t fit a class into my schedule and forgot about OM for a year or so. But basically, I live to disrupt the status quo. It’s my business to work with organizational leaders and help them to think in new ways. I’d never applied breaking the status quo to the realm of my body and self-awareness. So, when OM came back up on my radar, I thought, “This is a breakthrough I can do!” and went for it.

My first OM was with a guy who was a good 20 years younger than me. But I felt totally safe. The community of OM practitioners is populated with such gracious, open-minded people who have a sense of courtesy and kindness about them; I always feel like I’m taken care of.

Learning to make Requests

In my first several OMs, the first thing I had to practice was making a request. For some reason, as a woman, I thought I should be just happy with whatever I was getting. I didn’t want to sound like a complainer. I remember having no idea what to ask for during my first OMs. In business, I’ve always been an outspoken person. And if I’m getting a massage from a professional massage therapist, I’m clear and have no problem saying things like, “Hey, can you work more on my left hip?” But in the realm of my intimate life? I had almost no muscle around requesting personal attention. I didn’t even know what my desires were. I remember thinking, “What am I doing here?” Usually, I have things all figured out. But I was willing to dive into the discovery—which was a huge opening for me.

It didn’t take long to get the hang of asking for adjustments—stroking firmer or faster or moving right or left. I was thrilled to discover that my partners were thrilled to be asked for adjustments. About eight months after I started OMing, I was dating a guy, and it was just stunning to me how, after not saying a word to my husband for 30 years, I was able to naturally and effortlessly ask this guy for what I wanted! 

Discovering Body Intelligence

I also started noticing what adjustments made a difference for my body and how it responded. I started being able to hear the language of desire in my body. As a former high-level competing athlete, I always thought I had a high level of body intelligence. I can quickly pick up any sport. And I’ve always been an affectionate person who hugs a lot. Even before OM, I would have a party with some girlfriends, and we’d all pile on the couch close together and talk. But I never knew I had this amazing capacity to feel desire in my body.

Enhanced Human Connection

My capacity for connecting with other human beings, touching and being touched, was raised to a new level that was unprecedented for me.

Impact on Business

My OM practice also positively affected my business. In the past, there had always been this fear of my own power. I have a lot of masculine energy, and I always had a fear in my business and in family and friendships that if I came on strong and asked for things or made constructive criticism or something like that, that it would sound like I was steamrolling the person. But I’ve learned from so many strokers that people want to please. They’re looking for excellence. They’re looking for direction. So now the question for me is, how do I deliver the information? I’ve learned through OM that requests can be made from the perspective of the sacred feminine speaking. Now, when I bring this feminine power into business conversations, people are receptive and open and respond more powerfully to my requests and suggestions. There’s an eager receiving that occurs.

Embracing Feminine Power

Now, I don’t feel like a steamroller anymore, and that’s a huge shift for me. I no longer try to censor my expression. I can be my strong self. Not surprisingly, my sales closing ratios are great! And my honesty and clarity with potential clients works in everyone’s favor. 

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