When a relationship has been built stroke-by-stroke from the Erotic body, a breakup in the realm of the Erotic is an expression of breaking form in order to honor the contents and the relationship itself. By releasing the form, we create the conditions it needs to evolve into a truer nature.
Form is a necessary tool in the development of a relationship, much like a womb or shell is necessary for life to grow inside of. The key is to recognize when something that once served us is now endangering what exists inside.
The capacity to move smoothly with and through the transition of forms of relationships is a fundamental skill that needs to be developed. Conventionally, a breakup in the linear binary world of on/off signifies an ending that demands separation. In tumescent calculations, the breaking of form communicates failure because form is prioritized over essence.
In the essence-based world of Eros, the breaking of form is instead a signifier of growth, and therefore a signifier of success and an invitation into greater depth with that individual.
There is, in fact, little that is more intimate than experiencing the breaking of form with another person; the greatest potential for intimacy manifests as the form is shattered and essence is liberated.
Yet, here in this spot, where we could collect our reward—the experience of essence meeting essence we built the entire relationship for—we, more often than not, turn away, block, and punish. If instead, we remain with the breaking and practice what we've learned at the physical level of abstraction, then at the moment of the explosion of essence breaking through form—we can open. We can turn toward. We can secure into each other. In this way, we capitalize on the most powerful potential in human experience: to carve out new places of consciousness at an accelerated rate.
We can now possibly have the ability to share the most intense experience in human conditioning—and access this with a friend who has been through the trust-building exercise of relationship. We can rewrite the notion that the most profound states—from enlightenment to despair—are to be experienced alone.
What we do when we turn toward another at the point of explosion is to secure our relational capacity in the most extreme condition. This sets a new bar, giving us the capacity to remain connected no matter what. Furthermore, we get to know another human being beyond the terrain of the known world. We get to step into the unknown and the uncertain—beyond what form could contain. This is where true human relating begins.