Your guide to the naunces of Orgasmic Meditation
Orgasmic Meditation (OM) is a structured attention training practice conducted between two people who follow a predefined set of detailed instructions. The practice involves one person gently stroking the clitoris of the other person for 15 minutes while both place their attention on the point of contact and notice what they feel.
Unlike sex or masturbation, which tend to be oriented around the goal of climax without any established structure or attention training protocol, OM is a structured practice focused on harnessing sexual energy for meditation and personal growth.
Orgasmic Meditation provides participants with access to a powerful state of mind that is sustainable, replicable, reliable, and relatively expedient. It promotes human flourishing, or what is called Eudaimonia, and has been shown to increase positive emotions, decrease negative emotions, and enhance closeness and connection.
Yes, research from MIT, Jefferson University, University of Pittsburgh, and others has demonstrated the potential impact and effectiveness of OM. A peer-reviewed study found that 62% of practitioners reported having had a mystical experience during an OM, with the power of these experiences being comparable to the effects of the second-highest dose of psilocybin in another study.
A study by Dr. Andrew Newberg at Thomas Jefferson University observed that how OM affects certain regions of the brain more closely resembles brain patterns seen in meditation than sexual activity.
OM is a meditation practice because it involves placing attention on the point of contact where the clitoris meets the finger, staying present with a dynamically shifting object of attention. The attentional aspect defines the practice as meditation, not simply sitting and breathing.
The clitoris has more than 8,000 nerve endings, the highest number of any body part, making it primed for subtlety and feeling each nuance. The tip of the finger is the most dextrous part of the human body, with the finest motor control available. When these two body parts make contact, the potential for resonance is infinite.
No. Orgasmic Meditation is a partnered practice. Connection is a key component. Just as we can't tickle ourselves, the interaction with another human being is part of what makes OM what it is.
No. Both partners must complete the basic training before beginning their practice. If one partner has completed the training but the other hasn't, please wait until both go through the training to practice together. This way, both partners will have the same understanding about the practice, the container, and the steps, and have a deeper connection to their own desire for an OM practice.
Training in OM is available through various channels, including online resources like the OM App for iOS and the Institute of OM website, courses taught in-person by OneTaste or online through The Eros Platform, and private coaching offered by certified OM trainers from the Eros Coaching Collective. Comprehensive study resources include 'The Eros Sutras, Volume 3: Orgasmic Meditation' and the 'Container & Form' document.
The container in OM consists of a set of unchanging rules that define how the meditation is conducted. It includes prescribed steps, no reciprocation between participants, a 15-minute stroking portion, the stroker remaining fully clothed while the strokee is undressed from the waist down only, and the stroker wearing gloves.
The container liberates the vigilant part of the mind from its typical duty of monitoring the environment for changes or disruptions, allowing participants to refocus their attention inwardly and enhance their awareness of their own internal experiences and the subtle interplay of sensations during the practice. It also maintains the purity and focus of the practice.
Yes, the container is meant to provide structure that helps both partners immerse into the shared experience. The container is integral to the OM practice.
The OM container, with its specific rules and structure, clearly differentiates the practice from sex or other activities. The container ensures that OM remains a focused, meditative practice rather than a sexual encounter, and it prevents the incorporation of elements that could undermine its purpose.
No, while OM involves genital stroking, which superficially resembles a sexual act, the intention, step-by-step protocol, and neurological results clarify that OM is vastly different from sex. Research shows that practitioners overwhelmingly consider OM to be more akin to meditation than to sex, and neurological evidence supports this distinction.
OM is not adding or skipping steps of the predetermined practice, one partner taking on the role of 'healer' or 'therapist,' overt reciprocation, one partner being untrained, the stroker not being fully clothed or the strokee removing more than just her bottom garments, using substances during the experience, incorporating romantic elements, stroking anything except the glans of the clitoris, or making sexual advances during the OM.
The 15-minute duration emphasizes that the OM practice is not about prolonged engagement or mutual exchange but is focused on the experience within a set timeframe. This time limit is part of the container that helps practitioners trust the practice and let go of vigilance.
The stroker's full clothing and the strokee's partial undressing create a physical boundary that reinforces the practice's non-sexual nature and focuses on the clitoral stroking. This clothing arrangement is part of the container that helps maintain the integrity of the practice.
The nest is the carefully prepared environment for the OM practice. The absence of external stimuli such as music or scents in the nest ensures that the focus remains on the tactile sensations and intrinsic experience, without external influences. Maintaining the nest is part of upholding the OM container.
Both partners must be aware of the OM container to ensure they can consciously opt-in to upholding its principles. Adhering to the container is the responsibility of each practitioner, as it is essential for maintaining the safety, integrity, and intended benefits of the OM practice.
The stroker uses their left index finger for clitoral stroking, focusing primarily on the 1 o'clock spot, known for its high nerve concentration.
The stroker is encouraged to direct all available attention into their finger, enhancing the tactile connection. This focus helps both participants remain present and deeply engaged in the experience.
Participants are encouraged to relax their bodies fully, avoiding any unnecessary movement that could detract from the meditative focus of the OM.
Even if the stroker is right-handed, they should still use their left hand because it offers the best access to the one o'clock spot.
The amount of pressure used during stroking can vary, and may include light, medium, or firm pressure. The strokee can make requests for adjustments to find the most resonant sensation.
No, the stroker can vary the speed of their strokes, including slow, medium, and fast speeds. Different combinations of speed, pressure, and location can evoke different sensations for the strokee.
The stroker should focus primarily on the upper left quadrant of the clitoral glans, around the 1 o'clock spot. This area is known to have the highest concentration of nerve endings.
No, only the left index finger should be used for direct clitoral contact. The thumb may be used for grounding pressure on the introitus, but should not stroke the clitoris directly.
No, the strokee should not physically guide the stroker's hand or finger. Any adjustments should be communicated verbally to maintain the structure of the practice.
The stroker and strokee can communicate verbally to explore different combinations of pressure, speed, and location. The strokee can offer feedback and make specific requests to help guide the stroker towards the most resonant sensation. With practice, the partners will attune more deeply to each other's bodies and responses.
Communication during the OM is limited to necessary exchanges, such as safeporting, which occurs twice for ensuring consent and comfort, and framing, where sensations are described in specific, non-abstract terms.
The practice strictly prohibits any sexual overtures or seductive behavior, emphasizing the non-reciprocal nature of the experience. The stroker and strokee roles are clearly defined, ensuring that actions remain within the boundaries of the established container.
Adjustments during an OM session are communicated verbally. The strokee does not physically guide the stroker, maintaining the formality and boundaries of the practice.
Strokees may verbally request modifications, such as omitting the use of the thumb due to pain or sensitivity in the introitus, ensuring their comfort and personalizing the practice to their physical needs.
The OM practice is fundamentally a practice of communication where offers and requests are not merely procedural but are designed to enhance the resonant connection between the participants. This structured communication fosters a deeper, more attuned interaction, central to the philosophy of OM.
Engaging in 'sexy talk' or any conversation that deviates from the direct needs of the practice is strictly prohibited, reinforcing the non-sexual, meditative intent of OM.
By adhering to communication protocols, practitioners of Orgasmic Meditation ensure that each session not only respects boundaries but also deepens the connection and understanding between the participants, enhancing the overall effectiveness and experience of the practice.
Standard etiquette in OM limits conversation to necessary offers and requests. This focused dialogue helps maintain the meditative and professional nature of the practice.
Verbal adjustments ensure that the strokee does not physically guide the stroker, maintaining the formality and boundaries of the practice. This method preserves the integrity of the practice and upholds the non-physical direction from the strokee, emphasizing a respectful and clear exchange between participants.
Communication during the OM is limited to necessary exchanges, such as safeporting and framing, to maintain the focus on the practice's meditative nature. This ensures that the session remains centered on the connection and sensation between the participants, without distractions or deviations from the core objectives of OM.
No. Orgasmic Meditation is a partnered practice. Connection is a key component. Just as we can't tickle ourselves, the interaction with another human being is part of what makes OM what it is.
No. Both partners must complete the basic training before beginning their practice. If one partner has completed the training but the other hasn't, please wait until both go through the training to practice together. This way, both partners will have the same understanding about the practice, the container, and the steps, and have a deeper connection to their own desire for an OM practice.
Training in OM is available through various channels, including online resources like the OM App for iOS and the Institute of OM website, courses taught in-person by OneTaste or online through The Eros Platform, and private coaching offered by certified OM trainers from the Eros Coaching Collective. Comprehensive study resources include 'The Eros Sutras, Volume 3: Orgasmic Meditation' and the 'Container & Form' document.
Two key resources for comprehensive study of OM are 'The Eros Sutras, Volume 3: Orgasmic Meditation', which is suitable for both new and advanced practitioners and covers nuances and subtleties of the practice, and the 'Container & Form' document, the official, unabridged supplement to training in Orgasmic Meditation that includes a step-by-step breakdown of the practice and answers many FAQs. The 'Container & Form' document is available at ErosPlatform.com/container and in the back of 'The Eros Sutras, Volume 3: Orgasmic Meditation'.
Finding an OM partner typically involves engaging with the OM community, either online or in-person. Connecting with local OM groups, attending events or workshops, and interacting with others who share an interest in the practice can help you find potential partners. It's important to ensure that any prospective partner has completed the basic training and is familiar with the guidelines and norms of the practice to maintain a safe and respectful environment.
Key online resources for learning OM include the 'OM App: Partnered Meditation' found on the iPhone app store and om.instituteofom.com for the web-app version suitable for Android users, and the Institute of OM website at https://om.instituteofom.com/.
Courses for learning OM are available both in-person and online. OneTaste teaches live in-person courses, while The Eros Platform offers an online course at http://erosplatform.com/u/What-Is-OM.
Yes, private coaching for learning OM is offered by certified OM trainers from the Eros Coaching Collective. It's important to note that certified OM trainers will never be present with clients while clients are OMing. All training is done verbally and/or via fully clothed demonstration either in person or via telecommunication.
Yes, when engaging in OM, it is recommended that practitioners verify that potential partners have a comprehensive understanding of the practice's guidelines and norms. This verification process is crucial for maintaining the safety and integrity of the practice environment.
No, demonstrations of OM, often performed by practitioners with varying levels of experience, are not substitutes for actual OM sessions but serve as educational tools to illustrate the technique and its underlying philosophy. Proper training through established courses, coaching or study of comprehensive resources is necessary to engage in the practice safely and effectively.