A woman powered by the Erotic is firmly situated in her body and, as a result, firmly seated in the now. There is an underlying intuitive sense that she is tuned into something. She is a time artist, deeply immersed in the experience of now. As she strokes each moment, beauty is revealed on the canvas of her life.
The mimic of this, the unpowered version, is an impetuousness involving a flightiness—an inability to allow her attention to land in one location. She is often in a state of overextension, never able to invest in where she is. Gratification is always elsewhere.
This woman has taken on the masculine notion that freedom means access to all domains rather than the cultivation of one. She is a type of spiritual or psychic omnivore; everything is available and she has anxiety in terms of which perspective to take.
She lacks the deeper commitment to, and therefore the guidance of, her Erotic self, and, as a result, does not know how to make choices that will be truly beneficial to herself and others. Instead, her decisions are made in an attempt to avoid pain, and whenever pain occurs where she is, she has an "out." She copes by keeping her mind busy with projects that divert her attention from what she feels is a fundamental lack.
She searches for stimulation to stave off the anxiety. She hedges her bets by having more rather than going deeper. She cannot seem to access what she really wants in life. Her attention is diffuse. Her attitude is, "If I can't have what I really want, I will take the best from everything else."
She attempts to replace intimacy with variety because variety can hold attention without having to face the pain that intimacy requires. Variety also acts as a protective barrier; no particular thing can ask too much of her.
The woman not rooted in Erotic power can feel like she is scrambling in pursuit of whatever seems to offer freedom and satisfaction. Consequently, she tends to make reactive choices. She experiences life indirectly through the dense filter of fast-paced mental activity that consumes her power and distracts her. As a result, this power ends up out of reach, leaving her anxious, frustrated, and enraged, with fewer resources available to her physically, emotionally, or financially. She may even end up ruining her health, her relationships, and her finances in search of happiness.
The erotically powered woman stands where she is with intention. She makes the decision that she will be taken by this experience, and that it will be right because she will make it right. The difficulties become the path. She grows in depth and complexity as a result. She develops the resilience both to be where she is and to be moved. She develops a depth of loyalty that grounds her in the deeper desires for human connection, meaning, and aliveness.