by Harry Renard
The first time I learned about Orgasmic Meditation was on vacation in the United States. I was checking out different MeetUps and ran across one about Orgasmic Meditation. The people were friendly, open, and sweet when I got there. Afterward, a bunch of us went out for drinks. Again, it was interesting, and I could feel a connection with the people, but I kept wondering what was so orgasmic about this experience. It was mainly dudes talking about OM, and it didn’t seem like a big deal.
When I emigrated from Armenia and came to live in the United States a few years later, I was newly divorced and picking up the pieces of my broken heart. I was all beat up emotionally and just needed some love and some care. Slowly, I started getting myself back on my feet, and when I did, I started socializing online. Eventually, I ran across another Orgasmic Meditation event. Except this time, it was a real introduction to the practice.
My first OM - Orgasmic Meditation was interesting but awkward for me and my partner. She said it felt like electricity was coming from my fingers, like static electricity, and that it was weird and uncomfortable for her. As for me, I didn't know what to expect. It felt awkward. I thought maybe I wasn’t doing it right because it was uncomfortable for her. Plus, it was uncomfortable because I was tall and difficult to position myself.
After that first OM - Orgasmic Meditation, I started regular practice. For four months, I OMed every week, once a week. Eventually, I got into a flow. When I did, I noticed that every time I OMed, I would feel grounded. Ordinarily, I’m an ungrounded person. I’m like a fireball, highly active with a lot of energy. Sometimes, it feels like I'm up in the air floating. Feeling so grounded after OMing, like I was standing on the earth, was noticeable.
At first, I also felt like I was there for other people's pleasure but not getting much pleasure out of it myself. I wasn't sure what to make of that, but over time, I realized there was a meditation aspect I hadn't noticed immediately but could tune into. Focusing on doing just one thing, at some point, you forget what you're doing. You're so focused; it’s like you're not all there. You're just on this one thing, with all your senses going into your finger, stroking and keeping the rhythm and trying to vibe with your partner's energy field.
At some point, Orgasmic Meditation became more about connecting and less about anything else. It became about vulnerability, opening up, and becoming aware of my partner’s energy. I remember there was this one extremely sensitive woman. No matter how softly I would stroke, it would be too intense for her, almost painful. I barely touched her, and she’d say, “Softer, softer!” And all the while, I’m thinking, “Softer? Any softer, and I won’t be touching you!” But that wasn’t the point. It was what she needed. Orgasmic Meditation is so subtle and has much to do with your attention and intention.
I was always surprised to discover that the women I was most attracted to weren’t usually the ones with whom I’d feel the most connection during the practice. I realized it’s so easy to get hung up on your preferences; your mind tells you one thing, but it's different when you have the experience. And that's one of the things I wanted to explore with Orgasmic Meditation.
Through that process, I learned to be gentler and have fewer expectations about a woman's needs. Every woman is different, so it’s a great practice to stay tuned in.
