In the realm of human experience, few forces carry as much potential for profound connection as our sexual energy. Transcendental sex represents an approach that goes beyond conventional understanding, offering a pathway to harness this innate power for deeper intimacy and personal evolution. This practice isn't merely about physical pleasure—it's about liberating the sexual impulse from conditioning and allowing it to flow as the powerful, connective force it was designed to be.
The journey toward transcendental sex begins with recognizing that our sexual energy is fundamentally a drive to connect. This impulse exists to draw us outside ourselves and break through the membrane of separation between ourselves and others. When approached with consciousness and intention, transcendental sex becomes a vehicle for self-discovery and authentic expression.
Sexual energy drives deeper connection
Release conditioning for authentic expression
Develop power before true surrender
Open all channels without preference
Choose freedom over conditions
Transcendental sex is about removing the conditions we place on our sexual expression. These conditions—often unconscious beliefs, expectations, and patterns—limit our capacity for genuine connection. They create barriers between our authentic selves and others, preventing us from experiencing the full depth of intimacy possible through sexual exchange.
At its core, transcendental sex is rooted in innocence—a pure, untainted energy that has been layered with projections and conditioning throughout our lives. By stripping away these layers, we can access the raw, faithful power of our sexual essence that truly desires connection above all else.
For many, especially women practicing unconditional sex, this means confronting and releasing tumescent concentrations of energy that have built up in certain areas. The intention is to allow these energies to run all the way through to clarity, rather than remaining blocked by conditioning.
The journey toward transcendental sex requires dedication and courage. It's not an easy or inviting undertaking, and should only be attempted by those who feel genuinely called to it. For women specifically, setting a period of time—at least one year is suggested—to engage fully in the practice without securing a relationship is recommended.
This commitment is crucial because the process involves working with the most potent energies on the planet: the sex impulse (power) and attachment (love). The goal is to have both run clear so that something deeper and unconditional can move through.
One of the key elements in achieving transcendental sex is developing inner hearing—the ability to listen for the precise point of entry into another human being to uncover the spot of connection within yourself and open there. This requires presence, attention, and a willingness to tune into both your partner's body and your own.
For men and women alike, transcendental sex demands self-possession—owning our thoughts, feelings, and experiences without blaming or exalting another. This is perhaps the greatest challenge of the sex impulse, as it points to the tremendous responsibility that comes with acknowledging our inner power.
The benefits of transcendental sex extend far beyond physical pleasure or even relationship satisfaction. When we liberate the sexual impulse, we harness the force of self-assertion—developing vision, intuition, value, insight, and the power to carry through on our intentions.
This practice cultivates resilience, unarmored organic self-protection, and self-possession—qualities necessary for genuine exchange with the world. Only when we are powered in this way can we surrender authentically. Without power, surrender is merely collapse.
For women specifically, the practice offers a path to radiate energy fully without having to direct it toward any one person. This counters the tendency to "sell out" radiance in order to secure love. As the practice deepens, a woman's call (her attractive energy) becomes stronger, allowing her to draw in what she desires rather than desperately waiting or forcing outcomes.
Men benefit from releasing the shame and conditioning around their sexual impulses, finding a path to express power that is neither dominating nor diminished. Both genders discover that true love requires the full development of self and the ability to offer that self with courage, ferocity, and determination.
The connection between spiritual awakening and sexual expression becomes evident as one progresses in this practice. Unlike traditional spiritual paths that may be slow and plodding, sexual energies can be like "calling a taxi cab" to deliver us to our destination more directly.
When sexual energies bond with the light that lies behind our experiences, they transform into a force that dissolves negative aspects and converts them into pure, positive energy. This transformation isn't achieved by avoiding intense experiences, but by penetrating all the way to their essence.
The ability to penetrate and remain steady at any level of connection allows us to use sexual energy in a truly transcendental way. We engage in equal and complementary work to what we are connected to, and we are carried by the process instead of by another person.
Understanding our range is crucial in this journey—how open we can remain with the light and how focused we can remain in the dark, in the midst of confusion. The extent to which we avoid grasping, rejecting, or romanticizing while in bliss, and falling into resignation when in confusion, indicates our capacity for transcendental experience.
The path of transcendental sex is not without its challenges. As the power turns on, a lifetime's worth of sediment rises from the depths, threatening to clog the energetic lines. Counter-intuitively, the instruction is to turn up the unconditional sex rather than turn it down when facing shame, self-doubt, or reactivity.
Women, in particular, may find their feelings hurt in this process for several reasons. First, women lacking in power often lack resilience—precisely because they haven't unleashed the power to be resilient. Second, the heightened sensitivity that comes with this practice means encountering a world where most people have no training in sensitivity.
There's also the challenge of releasing deep-seated beliefs about sexuality. From "sex is evil" to "sex causes wreckage," from judgments about sexual expression to fears of powerlessness—all these beliefs need to be examined and released for the full experience of transcendental sex.
Perhaps the greatest challenge lies in facing the fear of what it means to truly have power in the world. How would our life change? Who would we have to become? What excuses would have to fall away? Very few people move past this point, as it means the death of an identity built around lack.
When practicing transcendental sex, especially for women, the aim is to open every channel. Each person we engage with has a particular channel that draws out their essence, and when we find that channel, we open that location within ourselves to fully experience it.
These channels might include restorative sex (smooth, synchronized movement), darkness sex (drawing from pools of shame for connection), disgust sex (driving into withdrawal responses rather than pulling back), astral sex (experiences of non-normative consciousness), making love sex (heart-centered connection), play sex (exploratory frolic), or animal/possession sex (primal expression).
The capacity to open and match what is present without asserting a preference allows for genius to express itself and opens options beyond the false dichotomy of either acquiescing to something unpleasurable or controlling the experience. This represents a shift from powerlessness to creative power.
At its essence, transcendental sex poses a profound question: Do we want our conditions or do we want freedom? The path sets before us not just a world but the world—the only thing that will truly gratify—and then places before us our conditions and their promised (though rarely delivered) results.
Through the practice of transcendental sex, we discover that the conditions we believed were keeping us safe, happy, or loved were precisely what prevented us from experiencing these states authentically. As we progress, we move from begrudgingly offering our conditions to eagerly searching for what more we can release.
This liberation of the sex impulse allows it to move with greater empathy, care, and compassion than we could ever manufacture ourselves. But that empathy is used to pierce through the illusion of separation and restore the felt sense of interconnection that heals us all.
When we engage in transcendental sex, we learn to be skilled in varying its power, making it solid and healthy as a field that radiates with open simultaneity and purity. As it flows through us, it cleanses our heart and senses, conferring a sense of joy. The same arousal and joy one feels in relation to someone who fits specific conditions, can be felt at all times toward the whole of life—a state of being lit from within.
In this way, transcendental sex becomes not just a practice but a pathway to authentic power and deeper connection with ourselves, others, and the world around us.