The feminine is the embodiment of the desire to possess, own, and devour. At the same time, the feminine desires true connection with the masculine. The feminine will therefore test the masculine. The nature of feminine tests may have altogether different intentions than they first appear.
In the beginning, the test may be about the fitness of the masculine— whether the masculine intention is strong and true. Can the feminine trust the masculine if the feminine unveils her true power? Will the masculine honor her? Respect her?
The feminine request that the masculine "do something" for the feminine is not just a request for meaningless action. It is the way the feminine strips back any extra that might exist between them—anything that blocks the masculine ability to see the feminine. The masculine superiority and the masculine composure get burned through. Only then, when the masculine is worn out and vulnerable, is he tender enough to truly feel and have reverence for the power that is the feminine.
At the same time, the feminine does not always know when to quit, often having "just one last thing" for the masculine to do. The feminine may run the masculine until there is nothing left for him to give—the power is completely drained. Feminine fear has no "off " switch.
Only as the feminine starts to rise to meet the masculine—to incorporate some of the masculine's vision, some of his traits—can he learn to set boundaries. The feminine is allergic to the word "no." This is rightly so. "No" is not a word that should be used when there is a "yes" to be found.
But when the quest for a "yes" comes up empty as it would stretch him out of his right range, overextend him, have him abandon some part of himself—then the masculine "no" is a gift the feminine is only too happy to receive. The feminine may kick and scream a bit, but soon the feminine will realize how a true "no" contains and comforts the feminine.
The feminine can be met with as much structure as the formlessness she naturally contains. That is the feminine's ultimate win. Even more than getting the task accomplished, the feminine wants to be seen and met. Only when the feminine is met does the feminine know she can let loose entirely. Only when the feminine is safe enough to let loose can the feminine truly learn to play.
If the feminine fears he will answer her requests until he falls over dead, never presenting the feminine with a boundary, a hard no, then the feminine cannot unleash herself fully.
The lesson for the feminine is to make requests that can be met. Rather than merely saying that she "wants to be happy"—which leaves the masculine to travel the globe blindly looking for the things that might accomplish the task—the feminine can drive it down to the particulars. The feminine can get an overall feeling of what would make her happy, and approach the "how" in bite-sized chunks. First, this. Then, that.
