In comparison to the slow, plodding methods of spirituality, our sexual energies are the equivalent to calling a taxi cab to deliver us to our destination. However, if our conditioning hijacks our sexual energies, these energies with their immense drive and capacity are used as fuel for conditioned behaviors.
When sexual energy bonds with rumination, it can manifest as trauma. When it bonds with a substance, it can lead to addiction. When it bonds with routine, it can result in depression and sloth. When it bonds with humans, it can create obsession and jealousy. When it bonds with accomplishment, it can breed envy. When it bonds with knowledge, it can foster a sense of superiority.
However, when sexual energies bond with the light that lies behind each of these experiences, they transform into a force that dissolves the negative aspects of each and converts them into pure, positive energy. This transformation is not achieved by avoiding these experiences, but by penetrating all the way to their essence. It is through this deep exploration that realization is found.
Once we learn to penetrate these experiences, we can ride any light source. This ability to penetrate and remain steady at any level of connection allows us to use sexual energy in a transformative way. We engage in equal and complementary work to what we are connected to, and we are carried by the process instead of by the other.
Understanding our range is crucial in this journey. Our range is determined by how open we can remain with the light and how focused we can remain in the dark, in the midst of confusion. The extent to which we avoid grasping, rejecting, or romanticizing while in bliss, and falling into resignation and being carried into neuroses and fear when in confusion, indicates our range.
The ability to hold our pole in the face of intense light or dark sources, without being drawn away and into the other, is essential as it creates a circuitry rather than a collapse. We apply force and reception with equal skill, giving us the capacity to subdue rather than be absorbed by the other.
Love is penetration and reception equally and concurrently held— simultaneously receiving and transmitting. Not just providing support, but penetrating. Not just acquiescing, but receiving. We respect and understand the language of the other without losing ourselves to the system we encounter.
We allow their ideas and beliefs to enter as real, true, valid, and important, without adopting those beliefs. Falling in love with all, without being owned by any, is where we aim.
We open and absorb the offensive without flinching, while at the same time—and this, typically, is most difficult for women—steering it. We remain seated in our capacity to draw in without leaving our center to get, to prove, to make sure another feels loved. Our frequency, rather than our activity, turns up.