Women have taken a hands-off approach to sexuality and dismissed Eros altogether. When she refuses to take the most powerful human drive into her own hands, she ensures both the masculine and the feminine are externally defined and externally driven. She's left men to design and determine the entire sphere of sexuality from the limited masculine perspective. She's absolved herself entirely, not only of working with this power but even of communicating what she desires to those who would build it.
Her method has been to say what is wrong, what she does not like, and how she has been harmed by this force being in men's hands. She demands rights and with no accountability. She accepts the benefits of a broken system. She uses her call in the form of feminine wiles, turning it up to draw others in. She employs the powers of seduction in order to move the world from behind the scenes. When she does not get the results she wants, she cries violation. When she gets the results she wants, she turns off the power. She knows at some fundamental level she holds the power, but refuses to learn how to wield it. When she gets hurt, she blames.
And yet this power is the power of life force. It is what matures a human being from child to adult. She has kept herself dependent in the house of men, complaining about the rules, regulations, and violations. She has demanded that he does the work, holds this difficult power, and—without any overt communication from her—knows exactly what she wants and delivers it on her terms without her involvement, all while the only "training" he's received has been her commoditization of this power, and her performance.
Refusing to take on the mantle of Erotic adulthood, her only communication with respect to her preferences has been that it be love and light and that she be protected. She's also wanted equal access. However, without knowing how to have her own power, She has used masculine expression to overlay her feminine selves, as this is what the idea of adult- hood appears to be.
She would not give herself over to the power itself in order to have that power move through her, grow her, define her, have her come out to meet the men she's felt so at the mercy of, on equal ground. She has spent what energy she had donning the cloak of masculine power and fighting, rather than doing the real and only work that would bring her into her own power, and commencing the endeavor of mastering this resource. She has refused to generate her own income. She relinquished the responsibility of initiating this resource and then complains when the results don't meet her expectations. She protests her infantilization when she is not willing to acknowledge her shared responsibility.
She lets her lack of resilience, a result of her lack of Erotic labor, shape her demands for how the world should go. She has demanded protection. She has demanded that men use this power to provide for her, but then she did not feed them. She demanded all sex be wrapped in a sheath of love, although her love has been fearful and powerless. What she called love has in fact been caretaking.
She has lacked power behind her love. The power to come out, stand up, and reveal. She has allowed ignorance to run the world—ignorance being the true lack of knowing. She has withheld the information of who she is and how things genuinely operate. She has concealed her call and allowed men to blindly believe they were running the show, blaming them for failures, while withholding acknowledgment and approval for success.
She has refused to cultivate and train men in the language she speaks—the intuitive, felt sense, under-the-radar way of communicating everyone knows but most have forgotten—keeping them ignorant. She has blamed them when they could not read her mind, though she has kept them illiterate.
The payoff is she gets to maintain the status of dependent, to not have to face the realities of an adult, to not have to hold the responsibility or make the mistakes. She can live inside the shelter of man. She can—in outrage like teenagers—bring men down, yell about her lack of access and income and say they are keeping her from it. But that is like throwing a tantrum to a parent about how adult we are while living off their income and demanding more rights. We say, "give me" rather than designing for ourselves and demonstrating our readiness.
No one anywhere at any time can give her power. To fight for it, to demand it, to tear the people down who have it—this is to be in the child's mind, communicating to power itself that she is not ready. To put the argument about women's power outside of woman is the issue with women's power. The argument is between woman and power, not woman and anything else. The belief that there is anything else is a symptom of lack of power.
It always feels good to be in the presence of true power, with others in power as well, bringing missing voices into the conversation.
