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Yes, I’d Like That

by Kevin

When I came to OM, I was in my early 50s. At that time, I’d been in the same corporate job for over half my life, spending 27 years climbing the ladder with one company. I was as stuck in a rut as anyone could be. 

Seeking Change

I was doing a job that I was good at but hadn’t been challenged by in many years.  I liked the company, and they treated me well. My coworkers were great, for the most part, and I enjoyed being around them. The problem was the work was dull.  I was bored, and I could tell that if I stayed where I was, I’d keep being bored for the next 15 years until I retired.  I had people to hang out with on the weekends or after work, but we couldn’t talk about deep things.  It wasn’t a terrible life by any means, but something was definitely missing, and that sense of lack just kept growing stronger.

I was also single and trying not to beat myself up over it. In my mind, though, I kept returning to past relationship mistakes.  It was so difficult for me to get close to people, especially women, as I felt clumsy and unattractive.  Beyond superficial chat, I had a very hard time being sociable.  Part of my rut wasn’t just at work; I no longer expressed any interest in a woman because I just assumed she wouldn’t be interested. I tried on rare occasions, but it never went well. 

I started looking online for anything that would get me out of this rut. I went to a lot of seminars and workshops, some of which were interesting—most weren’t. One day, I saw “Orgasmic Meditation” advertised on Meetup. “Those two words don’t go together,” I thought to myself. I was curious enough to check it out.  

Overcoming Self-Doubt

I first noticed that the workshop's leaders seemed so happy.  I’ve spent a lot of my career around salespeople. My bullshit detector is pretty good; I can tell when someone’s faking it and when someone’s genuinely excited about what they’re doing.  These leaders seemed honest and genuine, and as they talked, I was interested – but I was also a little disappointed. I was looking for a big and obvious experience, like the universe putting a billboard on the interstate that said, “Kevin, THIS is what you should be doing.”  I didn’t feel that with OM, but I was starting to realize that that was an unrealistic expectation.  There was clearly something here, even if it wasn’t overwhelming me right away.  I stayed.

My old programming told me that I should hang back, as women would not want to OM with me.  What I came to see was that this was the opportunity to work through a lot of my old baggage.  I couldn’t wait to be chosen the way I had for so long; I couldn’t presume rejection.  I had to put myself out there and ask.  And yes, sometimes I was turned down – but sometimes they said yes.

Confidence During Intimacy

My first few OMs were scary.  In time, everything began to switch up for me, and a sense of confidence began to come.  I remember one time I was stroking, and the clitoris began to pulsate, changing shape beneath my finger, and I could move with it.  The more it swelled, the calmer and more relaxed I felt.  It wasn’t just that it had become easier to stroke; I felt genuinely connected. 

I had never seen this woman before that day, but now I felt a bond with her, and I knew intuitively she felt the same.  This sense of well-being radiated up from my finger and into my chest.  This was what I had been waiting so long to feel and what I’d wanted to feel the moment I walked into that intro workshop. I had been so impatient. I had to stay and do the work.

The Feeling of Confidence and Success

You know that feeling when you study hard for an important test and are a little nervous about it?  And then you take the exam, and you know with certainty that you’ve aced it?  That feeling of relief and happiness when you walk out of the test – that’s how the OMs started to feel for me.  I’d never known this kind of confidence before.

It became easier for me to socialize and connect with people.  I realized I wanted to spend time with friends from OM rather than work, as OM people seemed much less judgmental. We practiced for different reasons, but we all wanted to be accepted and grow.  We had this shared experience that allowed us to get close.  I’d never had anything like that before.

From Timid To Being Honest

I met my wife through OM. One of the things that you learn from OM is how to be very specific about what you want.  Sometimes, you’ll need to express that want with a lot of intensity.  I was chatting with this woman, and she told me she wanted someone to yell at.  Normally, that would sound insane – who wants to be yelled at?  But she meant finding someone she could trust enough to handle all her honesty and intensity. I said, “Yes, I’d like that,” – and we started to build something together. We’ve been doing this practice together for a few years now. 

My wife still tells me how impressed she was that I said “yes” to all of her right away.  I’m the guy who could handle what others couldn’t. For someone who had once been so timid, that’s a constant reminder of how much I’ve changed. 

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