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Touching My Soul through My Body

by Heather

I found Orgasmic Meditation (OM) via a book reading in San Francisco, and I was intrigued. I was recently divorced and wanted to get back in touch with my sexuality again after my divorce. I was at a place in life where I was trying to do some out-of-the-box things, to feel again. I was single and back in the city, almost relearning my ability to feel. That drew me to Orgasmic Meditation.

Initial Discomfort

I was terrified in my first OM. It was uncomfortable and not very pleasurable, but I was willing to try anything once. I often saw references to the life-changing impact of Orgasmic Meditation online in Facebook groups and people’s shares, so I knew there was something I had not tapped into yet.

Persistence Pays Off

I stuck with it, knowing there was a way to get to the awesomeness these people talked about. I’d OM every few weeks, and finally, one day, I had an OM in which everything shifted. It was as if a light went on, and I could feel pleasure in the experience. I felt a release, an opening like some part of me was touched that had not been before. I made it a practice for 30 days, doing it every day to see if it made a difference in my life. 

Enhanced Intimacy with Orgasmic Meditation (OM)

Before Orgasmic Meditation, life in terms of relationships was totally different. My definition of relationship has broadened so much, and my ability to have intimacy with other people is so much better now with OM. But before that, I didn’t really know what intimacy was. The OM practice taught me how to open up and communicate vulnerably, beginning when you enter the nest. Once you have that experience, it becomes much easier to be open and emotionally available, which allows me to give better and receive connection with friends, romantic relationships, and co-workers. 

Traditional Marriage

I met my ex-husband while traveling, and we were companions and lovers, and we finished each other’s sentences. I thought he was my soul mate. We went down the classic path: get married, buy a house, get two dogs, jobs...It was very traditional and conventional. We didn’t end up having kids, but it was a pretty typical married couple life. We fought about all those typical things in marriage, money, and who would do what around the house. We went out and did things. We had our lives and were good friends. Over time, there was less and less sex, which I do think should be important, but overall, we were normal.

Surface-Level Connection

The truth is, though, we never really dropped into important things. Issues would get swept under the rug, or we would talk through a solution, but then it would happen again. It snowballed because we never got to the root of the issues. We weren’t really feeling one another. We were afraid to feel one another, and it kept us in our corners like in a boxing ring. I even began to think it was normal not to have sex in a marriage. We parted amicably after things just fizzled because we were always playing on the surface.

Emotional Awakening

With Orgasmic Meditation, what shifted for me is the realization that there was so much more possible in terms of how my body could open up in a way that felt like someone touching my soul. It was more of an emotional experience than just a physical one. So much opened up and shifted during OM.

Coping with ADD

I had struggled with ADD all my life, and I was a hyperactive child. As an adult, I found that the more stress I had in life, the less able I could focus. I would fill my days with tasks, errands, chores, and things like that so I wouldn’t have to sit still and be with my feelings. With Orgasmic Meditation, I learned just to stay still and focus on this one sensation without judgment and just feel. It gave me a deep understanding that sensation is just sensation, and it will pass. Even an unpleasant feeling will pass, and you are the one who chooses to attach the judgment of it being bad or good, but you can choose to just feel it and let it pass. You learn in OM to let your thoughts control your experience. I learned everything is really under my control because I have this choice. I learned it by surrendering and laying on my back in the nest.

Learning to Make Requests

One of the biggest takeaways I got from Orgasmic Meditation is that it focuses on the process of making requests and adjustments as an exercise to know what I want and then to be able to ask for it. When you make these requests, you are exploring and learning your body at such a finite level you know one small move will bring more sensation and a deeper connection to your body (and your partner). That level of precision really made me more aware of and connected to my body and empowered me not to be afraid to ask for what I want and need.

The Value of OM

I used to have so much pent-up energy, and I would have to find these ways to release the agitation. Orgasmic Meditation helped me find a natural way to release this energy, not in a negative or irritable way as before. I feel more comfortable with my body and sensations so I can put that energy toward purpose in my life now. Through the practice and the people I have met through OM, of all ages, all shapes and sizes, walks of life, and body types, it is the most diverse community I’ve ever encountered. This practice is truly available to and used by so many people; it removes that layer of thought and expectation I had that age or appearance was important. I know now that a deeper connection is so much more important.

It is really an incredible practice with so many benefits for people.

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