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The New Activism

by Elya

I learned about Orgasmic Meditation from a guy I met on a popular dating website. He told me he practiced Orgasmic Meditation, and what he said appealed to me because I was in the aftermath of a short but intense relationship. The chemistry had been electric, and I felt vibrant and alive while we were together. It had been only weeks since the breakup, and already, it felt like the energy was dying inside me. I understood that Orgasmic Meditation could be a way to maintain vitality without being overly dependent on another to create it for me.

Body Challenges

For years, I had felt like there was something wrong with me. I was deeply sure that I was broken in some way. I lived inside a story that I was dysfunctional, especially as I was in my 30s and had never been in a long-term relationship. The concept of relating intimately was completely foreign. I felt ill-equipped to express what I wanted or needed in a relationship and thereby make things work.

Although I had never explicitly done anything to address this, I had spent years trying to understand what stopped me from having the kind of love relationships I wanted. For a long time, I couldn’t seem to identify anything specific. It caused me a great deal of frustration. Eventually, I decided that it was a combination of being very shy and my turbulent relationship with my body.

Finding Inner Power and Independence

I was diagnosed as a pre-teen with a spinal condition called scoliosis. My adolescence was pretty much a series of doctors, hospitals, and operations. I had my first operation when I was 14. When I put on the girdle that I had to wear to support my back, my social life went kaput. It was traumatic. Metal went into my spine, and the healing process was very painful and uncomfortable. There was also the threat of paralysis—I remember it took me days post-op to remember how to walk. I think that I began to both detach from and hate my painful body. I began to believe that no one would find me attractive with my condition. I felt really ugly for many years.

As a girl, although cautious about speaking in groups, I loved to dance. It was a form of expression for me. No longer able to communicate through movement, I felt even more closed down and limited. I did, however, become an independent woman, what I would describe as a super-feminist. Part of me began to equate relationships and connection with a loss of freedom. Fast-forward to adulthood, although committed to female empowerment, I was still pretty sure that finding the right man would solve all my problems.

Initial Encounter with OM

I learned about Orgasmic Meditation (OM) while talking to a man on a dating app on a Saturday afternoon. If I am honest, I was more interested in the guy than the practice, although I didn't end up learning with him.

I remember that my first introductory event coincided with an office party. My colleagues started drinking at 4 p.m., but I had been told that Orgasmic Meditation (OM) events were sober, so I didn’t imbibe. As the hours passed, I felt more detached and alienated from my colleagues, making the contrast with the OM event palpable.

The feeling was so warm, lively, and connected there. It was like entering another realm of reality. Conversations were natural and went below the surface easily. And as for the men, they were like none I'd ever met! I had never seen so many open, sensitive, and intuitive men in one room! I signed up to learn OM - Orgasmic Meditation right away.

My First Orgasmic Meditation Experience

In my first Orgasmic Meditation, I think my stroker was more nervous than I was! Until then, I had always seen myself as vulnerable in my interactions with men. This first OM was marked not so much by the sensations I felt but by understanding that the guy and I were in the experience together. I could equally support and protect him.

In my second OM, I was almost on the verge of tears. I felt like I couldn’t escape my thoughts, and I grew frustrated and upset. Someone told me it was a very common experience for people in the practice to cry. I could see how disconnected I was from my body—I was always in my head.

I discovered that the practice of Orgasmic Meditation makes you really conscious of yourself by making your patterns very clear. Orgasmic Meditation made it really obvious to me how conscious or unconscious I was of my wants and needs. It was as if I had two choices lying there in the nest. I could let my stroker do whatever felt right for them, even when they were not on the spot, or I could discover the power to ask for what I really wanted. Cultivating my voice meant acknowledging all the ways that I would stop myself from asking for what I wanted. I had to explore what it would take to ask clearly and directly.

Redefining Power Through OM

I practiced regularly with a variety of people. It started to change me slowly. I let go of body shame and connected to that place inside of me that knows what I want—and I acquired the tools to ask for it. I gradually dropped into my body more and more and learned how to work with the huge amounts of electricity coursing through my cells. The most extraordinary thing happened: I began to realize the difference between relating to others from a place of fantasy rather than from what is real.

However, one of the most profound shifts for me has been my understanding of true power. I once thought that power came from intelligence. I had put all this energy into becoming an academic and human rights activist pursuing that power. Coming from Israel, a conflicted place, I was driven by guilt. I believed that I owed it to my country to be politically engaged. That identity dissolved in the intensity of Orgasmic Meditation, and it became clear to me how change really happens. There is a need for alignment between mind and body—this is how we create lasting change in the world. People have to be touched in a way they have never been before.

This is my new activism.

Harnessing Personal Power

I walked away from what I thought was my dream job at a university. I am building a startup as a gender consultant, fostering communication between the masculine and the feminine. It has been two-and-a-half years since I began Orgasmic Meditation, and I now trust in my power to make my desires my reality and give myself what I need daily. I OM, I exercise, eat better quality food, and foster deep connections with others. For me, there is no other way to bring what’s inside of me out into the world, and for this, I am so grateful to OM.

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