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OM Taught Me Gratitude

by Damien

When I discovered Orgasmic Meditation, I was already on a spiritual path. A ten-day meditation retreat had gotten me started on a profound practice. I had been married for sixteen years and had four children, so when I heard about OM - Orgasmic Meditation, I just hoped it would help me understand more about myself and intimacy.

OM Community Experience

I met with a group of people who all practiced OM - Orgasmic Meditation, and the conversation was engaging, with discussions about feelings and about how the OM practice worked. When I left and went back outside, I was stunned by how different I felt. I had been in a world where it was absolutely normal to ask a woman you don't know if you could stay in this intimate practice with her, and now that I was back in the outside world, it wasn't normal anymore. But in fact, which would I prefer? 

The idea of asking for an OM was daunting at first. I had gone alone to a class, and  I met a woman there who was also new to Orgasmic Meditation. After we talked for a while, she seemed to have confidence in me. So, we agreed to OM together.

Orgasmic Meditation's Impact on Personal Life

The process of asking for an OM, with its simple rules for request and response, has had a big effect on my relationships. The question is direct: “Do you want to OM with me?” The answer is also direct: “Yes, thank you,” or “No, thank you,” with no need for explanation. The formalization of the consent helped me realize that consent is a gift, and so is non-consent. If someone tells me no, it's a fantastic feeling because there is trust between the two people. The person who says no is able to recognize that I have a desire for something, but also is able to listen to her own desire. And no one is hurt.

In many situations outside of OM, the clarity and directness I learned there have helped me to ask for what I want and to accept a no. I give much more attention to other people's feelings instead of focusing on how my ego feels. My wife has her own spiritual path and does not practice Orgasmic Meditation, but what I've learned in the practice has made our relationship go more smoothly.

Sharing, Intimacy & Connection

My favorite moment of an OM is the step at the end where you share frames. The energy comes down, and we share what we felt during the session. For me, it is a moment of deep connection and gratitude. Sometimes I'll run into someone, years after we OMed only once, and I'll still feel a strong connection. 

The men I have met through Orgasmic Meditation have also affected me. In life, there is always competition between men. But when I speak to other men who OM, I find them open to showing their feelings and vulnerabilities, and that sense of competition is absent. The discussions among the men are wonderful. 

I still wonder, which of these two worlds is the real world?

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