Eros Platform logo

OM has Helped with My Shyness

by Andy Chan

My family is Chinese, and our religion is Buddhism, but it's less about religion and more about culture. We rarely share feelings, and sex is verboten. I was the youngest of four. I never felt heard. My father is quite stubborn and convinced he knows all things. Chinese culture demands respect and obedience from elders. That’s why I was shy, even at school.

Personal Struggles

I was a virgin. I like women; I’ve had tons of crushes on women but never told them. For example, at work, there was one woman I liked for six years. I didn’t know how to approach her. I think I emailed her. It felt dumb.

Discovering OM

When I first learned about Orgasmic Meditation, I was uncomfortable. I had never approached or tried to talk to women. I was pretty scared. I met some people who OMed, and they were vulnerable and easygoing. I have a hard time with vulnerability. I wanted to learn that skill, and I thought OM might help me feel more comfortable around women. I just thought it might be good to try something different and see what happened.

First OM Experience

I was nervous during my first OM. It was hard for me to find the spot. I had never seen a woman’s genitals before, and I didn’t know what to do. I didn’t understand upstrokes or downstrokes or anything. I had no idea what they meant because I could not feel anything.

Value of Adjustments

If there is one step that has been most helpful for me in the practice, it would have to be adjustments. I liked them at first because I did not know how to do anything. I’ve never understood why some men don’t welcome adjustments. I always found them useful. I don’t know everything about women’s bodies.

Now that I’ve been OMing for a few years, I definitely think it’s easier to approach a woman I’m interested in. It’s just as if I’m asking for an OM. I’m still afraid women will judge me, but OM has helped with my shyness. When it comes to relationships, I’m so much better one-on-one. That works better for me. 

Professional Growth

While I still have work ahead of me, in general, I’m trending upward. OM has made me better at work. At first, I was working with tech teams. Gradually, over time, I earned more responsibilities. I tried different roles in different areas. Eventually, I led a few projects. There I was, talking to my team and giving them their assignments. Before OM, I would never make suggestions to the boss. I’d follow his lead. Recently, I was able to give the benefit of my good counsel. I’m more vocal during morning meetings. And I even asked for a promotion. Didn’t get it this time, but I did make the request.

The practice has helped me gain the confidence to make those first moves toward people. I look forward to continued progress.

Related Stories
Awkward No More
by Arthur Porter
Growing up, I was pretty sheltered and socially awkward, especially around women. I felt uncomfortable because I didn’t know wh... see more
3 min Read
Approval For My Anger & Deepest Desires
by Nick Zaitsev
I emigrated from Russia to London with my family at age 15. To survive the transition, I learned to project a tough, macho kind... see more
4 min Read
Offering Myself and My Attention
by Ethan
I started practicing Orgasmic Meditation after a six-year relationship with my girlfriend ended. I had gone on a kind of spirit... see more
6 min Read
Rediscovering Trust and Connection
by Dan
My life was in a nosedive. I was working two jobs, struggling with feelings of chaos and lack of control, and losing my grip on... see more
6 min Read
OM Should Be as Popular as Yoga
by Carter Raj
I was raised in India and moved to the US at the age of 31. My work life was extremely hectic and stressful, with tremendous co... see more
5 min Read
Emotional Acceptance
by Steven
I was brought up in a traditional Chinese family with very conservative values. The number one rule I learned as a kid: if you’... see more
4 min Read
My Body Came Back to Life
by Linghong
Before I found OM - Orgasmic Meditation, I always felt a hunger. I grew up in China, in a culture where children were supposed ... see more
5 min Read
A Deeper Comfort With Who I Am
by Nate Leon
I was a sensitive kid. It was easy to make me cry, and that seemed to disappoint my parents. The men in my family all seemed st... see more
4 min Read
Less Need for External Validation
by Martin
I was nearing the end of a failing relationship. I could see it was going wrong, but my partner and I had no way of communicati... see more
5 min Read