For a long time, I lived a life of fun, entertainment, and excitement, drinking and having a good time. I let myself go physically and led an alcohol-centered life until my wife of 19 years and I split up. The day we separated, she dropped me off at rehab, and I never went back home to her or my two daughters.
Coming out of rehab, I was an absolute train wreck: mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and financially. But I was sober, and I started going back to things that worked for me before my life. I returned to a Paleo diet and started a spiritual wellness journey, eventually leading me to a health conference in Los Angeles. Starting my life over, I was wide open to possibility, learning to be true to myself and focused on meaningful connections. I sought practices to help me be present and connected to Source.
At that conference, there was a buzz about Orgasmic Meditation. I didn’t pay much attention because I was busy on my mission. But a friend of mine once came up to me and said, “Dude, you’ve got to come check this out!” So we went to an OM—Orgasmic Meditation event.
There was a demonstration of Orgasmic Meditation at the course, and there was so much energy in the room. It was intense and electric. The people in the class were putting off this super intense vibration. At that point, I decided I would try OM—Orgasmic Meditation for myself. My first OM was intense. I got into the strokes and got into the focus of the strokes. I received adjustments from my partner humbly; I appreciated the direction. I think the most intense part was the novelty, the newness of having the experience of stroking a woman’s genitals and being in the container. The container sets up a purpose. It sets you up for success because a clear set of agreements directs you to focus on the stroking.
Orgasmic Meditation is a process. After the first time, I started putting walls up. I had a lot of thoughts about me being different than everybody else. I had judgmental thoughts and assumed that I was on a higher trajectory about the personal work that I was doing. I was super focused on my wellness and physical recovery and started looking for what was wrong with Orgasmic Meditation. I judged it, and yet, it was weird because, at the same time, I also remained open to doing the practice.
I did the practice a couple more times. Even this minimal exposure to Orgasmic Meditation gave me the tools to purposefully up-leverage the attention I pay women, especially an intimate partner. I learned intentional focus married to surrender. Humility comes to mind. Respect comes to mind. Adoration of the feminine comes to mind. I surrender every day using these tools. Most of all, I learned about letting go. Letting go and allowing it all to come back together. Or not. And to be okay with whatever happens.
