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How Orgasmic Meditation Connected Me to My Body

Published December, 2023
by Candice Moore

When I discovered Orgasmic Meditation around age 30, I was locked into my chosen interwoven identities: healer, acupuncturist, festival-goer, and Burner (as in Burning Man). Though I was happy, my façade matched what I thought healers and coaches were supposed to be. We had to have our act together and never show our messy side.

Missing Physical Connection

What’s more, something big was missing: a fully grounded and felt experience of my physical body. I was living on a spiritual plane, from my heart chakra upward—and I didn't even realize it. I was ignoring and disengaging from everything below my heart region, and that was limiting me because I didn't have access to my full power. The festival-going me, who could hook up with men, wanted real connection—yet I didn't know how to have it. I wanted deeper intimacy but didn't know that it existed. 

Someone in my sphere told me about Orgasmic Meditation, and I became curious. I was also super resistant. The day before I was going to try OM, my neck went out. I woke up and couldn't move. I went to a friend’s house, and she worked on me with infrared sauna and sound healing treatments. It felt like a team effort to bypass my fear. 

I felt insecure about pulling down my pants. How was I going to let a stroker touch my genitals? I remember going to the bathroom three times before OMing, just to check myself out. Was everything okay down there? What put me at ease were the people who were practicing Orgasmic Meditation. I felt seen by them and safe with them. So, I was willing to give it a try.

My First Orgasmic Meditation

That first time OMing, I didn’t feel much. I was numb almost the whole time, except for about three seconds, when I felt a little jolt of electricity. It was a new and surprising sensation—and over in a flash. After the OM, I felt that something was wrong with me. It was my pattern to feel defective or broken. Why else did I not feel pleasure? It was a few weeks later before I tried again. There was more sensation, but my second OM was similar to my first. In those early days, I couldn't tell where the sensation was, and I didn’t know if I should ask for more or less pressure. Over time, that skill developed. My voice got unlocked. I learned to ask for what I wanted. I also knew more about what I wanted because I was beginning to feel it in my body.

Body Awareness

Around that time, I was studying Vedic meditation. I would drive from east LA to Venice for all-day meditation classes. In the car, my entire body would be buzzing with electricity. I knew it was from OMing. I was aware of my body in an entirely new way—it was like another world had opened up for me. From there, things began to change. Orgasmic Meditation became a deconditioning process for me—peeling back all the layers of conditioning from society and my family. The model I got from my mother was, How much can you deny your own needs? The more you can deny them, the better. OM flipped that on its head because it’s about expressing and following your needs and desires. It cleared out the shame I had around having desire in the first place. 

Then there were all the teen and women’s magazines I had read. They were filled with fairy tales and terrible advice, such as, “Models never leave the house without doing their hair because you never know who is going to snap a photo of you.” These crazy ideas were floating around in my psyche. 

The Bare Bones of Connection

Orgasmic Meditation - OM strips everything away. You get down to the bare bones of connection and don’t get tied up in illusion. It's just a finger and a clitoris in a nest, having an experience. You can see where you might go into a fairy tale—say if you feel like you’re falling in love with your stroker. You can see that’s just a story. There is something freeing about realizing that. Ultimately, you can see, "Oh, this is who I am. Not everything else that I've been conditioned by society to believe. I can just be me and inherently worthy of connection and intimacy."

The Body's Superpower

But the biggest gift of Orgasmic Meditation is that it has made me a better acupuncturist and healer. That’s because I can feel what is resonant and not in my body. When we feel in our bodies, we can always recognize the truth—what is and isn't congruent. We can steer ourselves toward our highest and best selves. I teach my clients how to ground down into their bodies and the earth so they can access this superpower and create the lives they want. Healing is all about having the power to create our reality. 

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