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Connection to My Instincts

by Deven Mehta

Between the ages of 16 to 27, I tried so hard to find a girlfriend. I earned a Master’s degree in psychology just to study relationships. I paid organizations geared toward men to train me on how to socialize with women. I tried everything I could possibly think of. 

I’m a smart man, and I was able to craft charisma and a sociable personality to get women to go on dates. But these encounters never lead to a relationship. I couldn’t figure it out. So, I gave up and focused on work until I began to feel really desperate. I became financially successful, but I still did not have what I really wanted in my life. No matter how hard I worked, at least 40% of my day was spent thinking about women.

Navigating Man-Woman Relationships in OM

Finally, a friend talked to me about Orgasmic Meditation. He said the practice included adjustments where your Orgasmic Meditation partner could tell you how she wanted to be stroked. A practice where I could learn more about female anatomy and pleasure in a way where a woman would give me feedback sounded really helpful. I couldn’t imagine what kind of universe existed where such a thing happened! 

Although my first Orgasmic Meditation partner was really understanding, the practice felt overwhelming. I was sweating. I wasn’t sure if I was doing it right and was concerned about being good. In the end, I was just glad I had tried it. I got through it, and we were both okay when it was over.

A Heartfelt Connection

My second OM was pleasurable as I felt tingling in my heart and chest. My partner cried, which opened my heart. It was incredible. I left that experience vibrating with joy, utterly convinced I had found heaven on Earth. The feeling stayed with me for hours. 

As I continued to practice Orgasmic Meditation it took me a long time to let go of my mind—to stop thinking so much. It was challenging for me to focus solely on my finger on the clitoris for a full 15 minutes. Eventually, I started to track when the clitoris would engorge or contract. Over time, what was happening between me and the woman I was stroking, and my feelings associated with it, became as clear as mathematics. When intimacy became that clear, my connection with women outside of OM - Orgasmic Meditation also started to improve.

I’m now in a relationship where our intimacy blows my mind. Through the practice of stroking, I gained sensitivity and connection to my instincts. I know how to follow my instincts with a woman. I’ve become sensitive; I can feel her energy and respond to her accordingly.

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