A Whole New World Opened Up

by Kent Oren

Orgasmic Meditation taught me to access the intuitive part of myself. Before I learned to OM, I thought everything I needed to know was on the surface. It turns out there are many layers to communication. 

Unhelpful Techniques

I had the average suburban kid upbringing with the standard talk about how to talk to girls. You know, the bare bones and the risks. The only real romantic advice I got was: “Be yourself.” That didn’t turn out to be any help at all.

So, fast-forward to adulthood, I was taking a course on pick-up. How do you pick up women, approach them in bars, and stuff like that? Someone in the course told me about Orgasmic Meditation, and I checked it out online. I thought that if I learned the technique, that would make me more desirable. That was my only goal at the time. Orgasmic Meditation (OM) taught me so much more than that. 

Intuition, Attention, and Connection Through Orgasmic Meditation

I learned that energy follows attention. Where my attention goes is where things happen. Once I knew the basics, I was left with, ‘What am I feeling in my body? What’s happening here?’ I started examining that in a way I never had before and discovered how much there was to feel in my own body in connection with another person. As I learned to slow down, a whole new world opened up.

For me, the stroking component is the meat of Orgasmic Meditation. It’s where you feel the shifts and changes. I can start an OM with someone, and at the beginning, it might feel slow, like a low buzzing kind of feeling, like the hum of a refrigerator. It’s not good or bad; it’s just what I feel. Then, all I’m doing is paying attention to that humming feeling, how it feels in my body. I’m not thinking, ‘We need to kick it up a notch,’ it’s just what I’m noticing. And then the humming might get lower or turn into a high, clear bell sound, and my body might feel heavy and grounded in the seat where I’m sitting. Then my stomach and chest might suddenly feel lifted up, and suddenly, there’s a floating feeling. When that happens, either my stroke might have changed, and I felt the change, or I might have felt the change, and then my stroke changed as a result. It can go either way.

The way things feel in my body can shift. And that connects me to my intuition. If I’m having a conversation with my partner over dinner, I can feel things at a deeper level. Some random idea about her mom might pop into my head, and I’ll say, “How’s your mom? What’s she been up to?” And she’ll be like, “Oh my god, I forgot to tell you I talked to my mom today,” or “I was just speaking to her today, and I have XYZ feelings.” That sort of stuff has become really common.

Orgasmic Meditation (OM) & Confidence in Relationships

I’ve also developed a new level of confidence, especially in relationships. Relationships before Orgasmic Meditation (OM) were fun but mysterious, difficult, and challenging. There was so much about it I didn’t understand.  I didn’t really know what I was doing with women. I did my best, but my nervousness about what to do during intimate moments would make us both super anxious. Now, I follow my intuition because now, I have that intuition to tap into.

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