I found the practice of Orgasmic Meditation about a year and a half ago, just after moving to Los Angeles. I moved to LA because I was ready for a life change. I wanted something different. I wanted to be more present. More connectable. However, I felt completely isolated after about six months of living here.
In a way, this was typical for me. I’d spent so much of my life alone. I wanted to change that but didn’t know what to do. At a certain point, I felt so challenged by my loneliness that I was about to leave the city. That was when I found myself at an Orgasmic Meditation event. I had been hungry for connection my whole life, but the people I met at that first event connected with me in a way that felt so nourishing. I saw this quality of aliveness in everyone I met who had done this practice. I wanted to try Orgasmic Meditation (OM) to facilitate the entry point for this quality of connection, so I learned the practice.
About two weeks later, during my tenth OM, something happened. The part of me that felt starved for connection opened up and was nourished. I thought, ‘This is it. This is what I’ve been looking for.’ After the OM, my partner said, “Oh, so that’s what this is all about!” She felt it, too. Even though I’d done so much personal development work, the space inside that needed filling remained.
The Orgasmic Meditation practice has helped me begin to fill that space inside. I’ve had about four hundred OMs now, and I’ve learned that it is definitely a process. Sometimes, I feel inspired, and other times I feel challenged. But, because this practice cultivates such a high quality of connection, I feel more nourished than ever before in my life.
I’d always believed deep, intimate connection was only available in primary relationships. But Orgasmic Meditation showed me how much deep connection and care I can have with anyone, anytime, if I give them enough quality attention. It helped me develop that kind of attention.
Orgasmic Meditation has helped me recognize that deep connection is a natural human need rather than a perk reserved only for people in committed relationships. I realized that the depression I had been feeling was tied to my loneliness and boredom and that the connection I’d experienced through Orgasmic Meditation was the best cure for that.
It's not that I don't get depressed anymore. It's that I have a solution now. It's impossible for me to feel lonely and bored while practicing OM. It's way too connected to feel lonely. And it requires way too much attention to be bored. There's such a direct feedback loop that connection and attention are inherent. There is even a backup system. If you lose connection, adjustments from the strokee provide immediate feedback that brings attention back to the present. These adjustments have helped me develop my attention.
Now, I have more intimacy and connection in my life than I ever thought was possible. I’ve found what I was seeking when I moved to L.A. I feel like I can have a deep, intimate conversation with anyone, whether in a committed relationship or just met. My capacity for intimacy feels less conditional than it did before. I’ve started to build my whole life around connection. And I’m so excited to see how it unfolds.
