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Healing Around Racism & Trauma

by Felicia Hunt

I am a Black woman. I carry in my DNA the ancestral memory of the trauma inflicted on Black people, and I have my own bitter, painful experiences of both racism and sexual abuse. One of the most profound surprises of my life was that I could experience so much healing and growth in a practice that involved me on my back, stroked by a man – often a white man. That’s not how it was supposed to work. Yet it did.

Orgasmic Meditation: A Healing Practice

I wanted a practice that could go beneath the surface; I wanted to stir the waters I hadn’t been able to reach before. From the beginning, I found that different things came up with different partners. One partner I remember particularly well. It was his first time, and he was nervous. He took my adjustments, listened to my instructions, and stroked a little bit left, then a little bit right. I could feel the challenge he was having in surrendering his role as the usual masculine leader and allowing himself to be guided. When he felt the energy flowing through my clitoris onto his fingertip, I knew it as soon as he did.  I could feel him melt into the adjustments, and I sensed the shift in his core. I could feel the warmth in his chest, which came with my orgasm.

Orgasmic Meditation (OM) is a practice that requires you to learn to feel. It appears to center on women, but what I’ve seen again and again is that it can transform men. It allows their own internal and suppressed ability to emerge and connect with women. When I first came to the practice, I had some brief doubts as to what would motivate a man to participate in Orgasmic Meditation (OM), given that he wasn’t receiving anything. Now, I see that men can receive just as much as women can through Orgasmic Meditation.

Ancestral Connection

Orgasmic Meditation (OM) has also brought me a great deal of healing around racism. I recall one OM I had where everything seemed to go wrong. My partner was a white man who had been practicing for years. He had a reputation for knowing what he was doing. For some reason, he had trouble with my anatomy in that OM and was fumbling all over the place. In my head, I convinced myself that it was because he was confused by a Black woman’s body. Afterward, we sat and talked about it honestly. It was an intense conversation and a healing one. We are still good friends today; I love that man to death. What I realized is that I had all these deep-seated assumptions about how white people see me. I don’t know that I could ever have worked through those assumptions and healed from them without Orgasmic Meditation.

I believe we carry historical trauma inside of us. For a long time, I struggled with having a white man looking at my body while I was in what seemed to be such a vulnerable pose. I wondered what my ancestors would say, but they wanted nothing more than for me to heal and be happy. This was the most deeply moving part of Orgasmic Meditation for me, as it seemed to liberate something for me and those who came before. 

Orgasmic Meditation & Healing Trauma

Whenever I speak an adjustment, asking somebody to stroke a little to the left or a little slower, I reclaim my boundaries. Those little commands were difficult at first as I battled my worry about upsetting the other person. Slowly, I found my voice. What I was first able to do in the container of Orgasmic Meditation, I am now able to do in so many other contexts. The practice of OM has been a seed for growth in almost every other area of my life.

Above all else, Orgasmic Meditation has helped me know my truest desires. It has made it possible for me to show up for myself, whether I’m single or in an intimate relationship. It has helped me find reserves of compassion and honesty I wasn’t sure I had, and it has helped me heal a lifetime of deep trauma. I don’t want to keep all this for myself, so I’ve developed my own spiritual practice and work with clients to help them realize their true potential. I get to see people heal as I heal, which is a wonderful gift. The tools of Orgasmic Meditation (OM) go with you everywhere.

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