In the checks-and-balances world everyone wants to be the one on top—the giver—because top is perceived as the superior position and removes us from the grind of humanity. But there are very few who can skillfully receive. To admit we are in need, and to gracefully receive help, is a service of the highest order.
Genuine reception is the most realized skill we can have. In fact, in the most advanced levels of Orgasmic Meditation (OM), the most realized skill we can have is that of genuine reception.
There is a delusion rooted in the world of appearances that the fulfillment of wealth is a result of material wealth and that we cannot exist in material poverty and have a mind that is happy and free. Eros is happy to decouple this fallacious reasoning and say that while the meeting of basic survival needs is vital to liberating enough attention to focus on fulfillment, there is a poverty that comes from excess that is rarely addressed.
There is no universal causality in the material world: people who lack material goods are happy and not happy, people who have material goods are happy and not happy. The key lies in the filtration system of each person, in their capacity to draw in life, purify it, and send it out as love. A heart emptied in this way is one that is available to receive the backlog of love and attention and offering that exists in most people's hearts.
We tell ourselves the number of people in need is overwhelming. In fact, the number of people living with backed-up excess is overwhelming—people living in an impoverished heart cut off from resources by their own buildup. This buildup presents as pride, superiority, and even charity. It becomes a kind of well-adorned garbage that we grow more and more protective of.
Our greatest human resource is our humility; it is the gold that remains valuable irrespective of conditions, the capacity to give and receive as needed without accounting. To give without saddling another with the burden of acknowledging we are owed or with a certain display of reception, enjoyment, or kindness.
To give because to give is what there is to do—this is what empties the heart for Eros to flow in. And to receive without anxiously keeping track of how we will pay it back so we can maintain our dominant position of being the giver.
We aim to give without the hubris of being a giver, and receive not because we deserve it or we demand it or because we are broken. Instead, we give because there is surplus and receive because there is space. And we want to genuinely receive.
To allow reception to move past the controller of our mind and into more vulnerable parts where we can be touched and moved without immediately volleying or paying back, opening instead to more and drawing in as an offering so others may have the joy of offering. This is adult reception. We can draw forth with humility that steadies reception so the other gets to see what they are made of: beauty, kindness, and compassion. The proving self, the one that repels reception in order to be outward-acting in its addiction to proving, always rejecting half of the human equation, is dissolved.
When we do not need anything from anyone, we are a transmitter of rejection in the world. The tumescent mind may exalt this quality, comparing it to the child's mind that swore it would never be at the mercy of needing anything from anyone again. Rejecting offerings or making them because we are protecting our own feeling of brokenness, this is pride masquerading as self-support.
In fact, whatever we give from this place will be tainted with the poison of rejection and scarcity. Only abundance can offer abundance. And while both positions, giving or receiving, can make great offerings, it is more than likely there is an imbalance in humanity's capacity to receive.
Our collective cups are too filled with ourselves to receive the fresh waters that are available. As a result, the greatest givers of this time are those who can genuinely receive.