When a woman is practicing unconditional sex, she is aiming to open every channel. Each person she engages with has a particular channel that draws out their essence. When she finds that channel, she opens that location within herself to fully experience that location. Some common locations are:
This is on the order of a massage-type of sex where both bodies move in synchrony. There is a smooth quality that is almost like two eels moving in unison, and a physicality in a squeezing motion that ends in an energetic quality. The feeling is one of movement, close to wrestling or paired dance. The Erotic expresses in the capacity to move together and what lies between. It feels good to open and stretch the body together.
The sex of darkness is sex that pulls from any pools of shame and uses that as the material for connection. Both partners go into what they conceal in the everyday world and pull that forth to be used again in a complementary way to generate connection. Various identities rise to the surface, often associated with positions of power, submission, and dominance.
Through one person's desire to be taken, an entryway opens for both to be taken into another realm or plane where, because it is dark, there is an additional intimacy in the experience they share. The mimic of this in the world of appearances is "dress-up." Darkness sex is un-dress-up. It is a revealing of something hidden, not a performance.
Women have a built-in withdrawal response to certain expressions in our partner. As she gets more power, something incredibly valuable occurs: she learns to drive into disgust—the scent of body odor, the feeling that he is unconscious and pumping—rather than withdraw. As she opens to it, she discovers there is as much sensation available in disgust as there is in attraction.
In fact, there is often more because it is an arena she has not tapped into. Power imbues her with the capacity to experience sensation beyond the filter of judgment, and these pockets are often rich with sensation. Beyond this, she is liberated from preferences and gains access to that many more arenas in her life.
Eros generally likes to fly very low to the ground, without aiming for extraordinary experiences since the ordinary ones, when fully experienced, are more than enough. But that said, it is not uncommon to land in experiences of non-normative consciousness. As she concentrates in power, she may regularly find herself with her partner in other locations or feel as if she can hover above or see the experience she is having. She is connecting to an aspect of consciousness that always exists but needed enough power to be seen.
There is a type of sex that feels as if it is drenched in sweet connective love. It can feel like it draws forth the heart and yearning and a sense of being met all at once, that our partner is in perfect sync with our desires. This may simply be the channel our partner most naturally expresses themselves. Thoroughly enjoy the experience but do not attempt to extend it outside the experience.
This sex is a type of frolic where what awakens in both her and her partner is the unspoken desire to see if she can stay connected as the channels switch. There is an explorative quality, wanting to test out what this is made of.
This is a type of sex where it feels as if she and her partner are possessed by something deeper from the bowels, something from beyond her own body or consciousness, that comes through with voraciousness and an agenda. Both partners can let go entirely without fear that the other cannot fend for or handle themselves. This is a very uncommon channel for a woman to open, but when she can and does, it is a sign that she has built a high level of power.
There are other forms and there are endless mixes, these are simply the more common essence channels she will find in a man. To the extent that a woman can open and match what is there without asserting a preference, his genius will express itself and she will open optionality in ways she otherwise could not. What is often considered inconsistency in a woman is in fact consistency with multiple channels. To the extent that she can change in connection, there is a continuity that feels seamless.
By finding her partner's channel, women open an option beyond the false dichotomy of either acquiescing to something unpleasurable or telling her partner what to do. For a woman to say, "I am going to guarantee that this is good and I have the power to do so," begins to take back a lot of the powerlessness women have felt around sex. To step out of the role of "being his fantasy" and instead into being his maker is a shift every woman has the power to make.
