A woman's Erotic body has its own sense gates—a different set of ears to hear, eyes to see, and most importantly, transmissions to be felt. When this body is activated, she can transmit sensation—dependent upon her skill and aim—to anyone in any direction. She does this simply by drawing her own attention down into her body, putting the whole of her consciousness into her Erotic self, and focusing her ambient attention in a specific or general way. This ignition is her gift to the world. It is a warm, radiating presence.
The imitation of this is "arousal." Arousal is a response from the mind to the body as opposed to a body-to-body transmission. Arousal almost invariably is centralized in the genitals and is experienced as a sex impulse brought about by visual stimuli. The visual stimuli may occur from actually seeing a person or imagining them, but it is always visual in nature and a product of the world of appearances. The "spiritualized" version of this occurs from eye gazing, but keeps the experience located in the mind.
Eros does not discriminate in terms of what it activates. An Erotic transmission can activate in the physical body as sensation, in the emotional body as love, in the spiritual body as presence, or in the creative body as inspiration. Eros merely walks as a light illuminating what wants to be lit in others.
The whole of life is of equal interest to Eros, which is perhaps why sexuality is healed by Eros. It simply takes its rightful place as part of the totality of our experience—no more and no less. It does not have to carry the burden of all of the projections placed on it. It is just happy, connective, and powered.
The woman who is not erotically powered must rely on the arousal impulse in order to create a response in others. Our obsessive fascination with sex creates a visual palette. Ranging from facial expression to voice tone, clothing to sun exposure, there is an endless array of visually arousing images a woman can conform to in order to get a fleeting response with diminishing returns.
It is a lot of work for very little benefit in that the entire person is not activated, just a limited aspect, and not a particularly interesting one at that. Highly visually aroused people tend to see what stimulates them as objects. The interaction is thus not very fulfilling. It is one ego interacting with another ego at the mercy of the habituation of the mind, producing decreasing stimulation.
Because the erotically powered woman does not need the attention, this occurs to her not as bad but simply as not particularly interesting. She may choose to play in the visual arena, but this is for her own stimulation and to introduce another dimension to her overall Erotic transmission.
She who cannot illuminate fully will spend every effort to send what light they have to the surface. She who can will light up whomever, whenever, however they can—not because she gets a result but because that is simply who she is.