The practice of finding the spot is to keep inquiring and projecting, looking at different places, and seeing if the sparks of consciousness go on anywhere. It’s easy to overlook the truth that this is the process of creation: All the options are here, right now, and we are trying to find the spot. We find the spot by moving in between the options. If nothing lights up, we don’t land. In Orgasmic Meditation (OM), we don’t put our finger down because if we do, we are feigning to draw life from the lifeless, creating tumescence out of tumescence.
Typically, we are so uncomfortable not knowing where the spot is, that we don’t fully immerse ourselves into the state of feeling like we don’t know where the spot is.
Not knowing is actually a spot. How do we skillfully stroke not knowing? People try to bypass this stage and either wind up with uninformed attention or with inattentive action. This happens with the masculine aspect sometimes, where he feels like he has to know because he doesn’t recognize not knowing is an honorable state. He desperately feels like he needs to know. However, he’s not yet at an action state that’s informed by a turned-on direction but he feels like he has to act regardless.
So, he ends up clawlike—tight, cramping, closed, rigid, and sharp. Or, because the state of not knowing feels dishonorable to him, he feels he has to withdraw or hide. He doesn’t know what to do. His mind is telling him he should know something he doesn’t and so he hides or withdraws in the shame that appears as a result of not honoring the not-knowing state.
If we were to honor the state of not knowing, then we would realize the response to every mistake we’ve ever made is compassion.
The response to every mistake we’ve ever seen anyone else make is compassion.
The resonant kind of compassion may range from heavy-pressure compassion to nurturing compassion to affirmative compassion, but it’s still compassion. It’s the only appropriate response to anyone’s behavior when we recognize the not-knowing state in them despite the attention being directed at the ill-informed action they took.
We come to understand that anything anyone has ever done to us is the result of not knowing a better way. When we have this realization, that is the only thing we have to hold on to, not anger or resentment or malice. Everyone must realize this for themselves. When that happens, we see reality in a new way.
Any criticism or derision becomes the understanding that there is a “noble not knowing” or a “noble unknowing” that is a stage of creation.
