Lust in humans is the natural expression of co-evolution. It is a skillful trick of nature that draws two entities to act upon each other, each thinking they got the better end of the deal simply by doing what each one does. This elegant process can only be understood if we shift our understanding of nature from one force acting upon another to two forces concurrently acting upon each other in their perfectly complementary ways. The bee and the flower each has the other doing its bidding in some way.
This is simply how life works. But, if we believe the draw of the flower is shameful and the response of the bee is weak, the whole system gets thrown out of balance.
At a fundamental level, we understand this. The issue is we only understand it through a lens of shame. We see women as seducing men and tempting him away from his capacity to be in the spiritual, distant, non-attached realms. If the aim is to remain separate from the interplay of life, then this magnetism of lust is indeed to be condemned.
The issue is that as those who are masculine cut themselves off from the constant play of this magnetism, they cut themselves off from the communication of life. They become at the mercy of the world of appearances where it looks as if they can arrange and rearrange reality without having to be in concert with a larger ecology.
More importantly, they feel alienated from something fundamental, as if they are in a great unsolvable mystery that must be controlled rather than listened to, understood, and cooperated with. It becomes the masculine against, rather than the masculine with. He doesn't do his part and shames her for doing hers.
When we are cut off from lust, we are necessarily cut off from sensing life, from knowing our impact, from knowing when to stop, and from having the intuitive understanding to know what to do. We are fundamentally insecure and searching and wind up confused and delusional. There is no hand guiding our thoughts or behavior.
We end up only knowing lust unleashed from the harness of the other aspects of nature, and we call that lust. Rather than a capacity to live in reciprocity with life through the senses, it becomes a disproportionate and consuming desire to feed off the signal of others. Women thus turns off her signal and condemns lust in the masculine. He sees it as a distraction from God.
To have lust restored to its rightful place is to play in the exchange of all humans, to have the capacity to have a perfectly resonant response to our environment, to joyously and effortlessly offer who we are and have that benefit others, and to receive the offerings of this life in a flawless, balanced reception. The simple relinquishing of the idea that anything is a possession opens up the door.
