Love is a formidable power. In order to inhabit it fully, an unimaginable backbone is required. Our usual experiences of love employ elaborate, compelling obscurations including thick layers of attention-grabbing gimmicks, uncomfortable reactivity, shame, and really whatever it can use to get you off the spot.
Yet love demands we keep stroking, ask the inappropriate question, say the thing that isn't politically correct, speak the desire that will send our partner into a self-righteous rage . . . but also say we're sorry when we notice we caused genuine harm, taking our indignation and emptying all the air out of it in order to feel the other person's side.
The only way to know the difference between hurt and harm is a marriage of exquisite sensitivity and raw power in relentless dynamic tension. The marriage of these two produces an attention that is like a heat-seeking missile, always hunting for the spot and staying with it until it reveals its secrets.
The commingling of intuition, power, and intimacy manifests in a variety of ways when in contact with the spot. In the body, it translates as the feeling that everything is right and there is the ability to exhale, while in the mind, it translates to the small miracle of a shift in consciousness.
In the senses, we have the experience that we have been transported into the sublime while in the heart, there is a welling of decentralized love. In the spirit, it's experienced as pure illumination. Touching the spot always translates into contact with the Mystery that makes even the mundane extraordinary.