Have you ever noticed how some women seem to drive other women crazy, even while looking completely innocent? Or how a man's partner can sense, on an almost instinctual level, when he's been emotionally or physically entangled with someone else? These are often signs of insecurity at play.
Insecure women often engage in subtle manipulations that wreak havoc in relationships. In this article, we'll explore the toxic behaviors of insecure women and how they leave their mark.
Just like dogs, insecure women leave their scent to assert dominance over men. When an insecure woman encounters a man—even one she doesn't actually want—she unconsciously places an energetic claim on him. It’s her way of signaling, "He's mine."
This leads to a war between women that takes place in the essential, energetic realm, no matter how innocent things appear on the surface. The insecure woman isn't much fun to be around. She makes men dumb by keeping the focus on herself without putting in the work to educate them about the interior world.
In contrast, a secure woman engages with men from a place of authenticity. She enriches his perspective, fosters intellectual and emotional growth, and adds value to his life. A truly confident woman may even connect with a married man on an intellectual or emotional level—not to claim him, but to offer insights that ultimately strengthen his relationship with his partner. Secure women uplift, collaborate, and contribute to a world where everyone thrives.
Insecure women often adopt a "broken woman" identity to elicit pity and attention. This powerless persona is rooted in the story of "this happened to me" rather than taking responsibility. While it may be tempting to rescue or protect a "broken" woman, there's a high price to pay.
By presenting herself as incapable of genuine vulnerability and power, the broken woman concretizes a powerless identity. She distances herself from others. People either inflate their own power or lose interest altogether. Most tragically, she loses access to her true power and gets locked in a needy cycle.
True vulnerability, in contrast, is a form of strength. A woman who openly expresses her emotions—without using them as a tool for control—naturally inspires connection and care. She risks being hurt, but she lives authentically. Vulnerability is not about submission or weakness; it is about being real, emotionally present, and open to transformation.
The illusion of women as powerless is a carefully constructed lie maintained by both men and women. Insecure women maneuver things behind the scenes in circuitous ways so their power and influence remain hidden, even sometimes from themselves.
For example, an insecure woman may scheme behind the scenes but deny any involvement if confronted. She enjoys the advantages of influence without having to develop personal accountability. She may claim to be disempowered while subtly controlling those around her, so long as she frames it as men oppressing her.
Other manipulative tactics include:
Withholding sex and acting mysteriously to maintain the upper hand.
Playing up her fragility to trigger a man's biological protector instinct.
Giving a man just enough power to function but not develop his own identity.
Offering little genuine approval to keep him seeking her validation.
Destroying any woman who demonstrates her power or sexual desire openly
By keeping men focused on her, an insecure woman diverts attention from the deeper power dynamics at play. If a man starts recognizing these patterns, she may respond with disdain, endless complaints, or emotional withdrawal—ensuring he remains confused and dependent.
The system of insecure women wielding hidden power depends on everyone upholding the illusion. But the costs are too high - dimmed power, confusion, inauthenticity, and endless detours from our true desires.
To break free, we must be willing to see and tell the truth. Women can step into their full power by being vulnerable and taking responsibility. Men can wake up to the invisible matrix and reclaim their energy. When we stop colluding with manipulation, a more authentic way of relating becomes possible.
The path forward is through radical honesty, self-awareness and choosing courage over comfort. As more individuals commit to living in integrity, the old systems will crumble. Then, we can create relationships and a world based on essence rather than illusion.
Some signs include possessiveness, jealousy, or an unspoken sense of territoriality—even if she has no genuine romantic interest in him. She may subtly undermine his relationships with other women or create tension where none previously existed. Secure women do not feel the need to assert dominance in this way.
Insecure women often manoeuvre things covertly to hide their influence. Tactics include strategizing to make a man think something was his idea, playing the innocent victim if confronted, withholding sex or approval to maintain the upper hand, and leveraging fragility to trigger a man's protector instinct. The goal is to divert attention from her power.
The path to authentic feminine power is through vulnerability and radical honesty. This means expressing your true interior state, being open to be moved by others, and taking full responsibility for your experiences. It requires courage to face the truth and live in integrity, even when it's uncomfortable. Genuine power comes from essence, not illusion.