The unpowered woman believes the world deserves a piece of her and that she is expected to grant access to all. However, she may hit a limit and then swing to the other side, putting up a barrier and closing down access completely.
The woman who is erotically powered does what Eros itself does, and places an energetic Erotic moat around herself. She wants it to be difficult to access her but is entirely available to those who are willing to demonstrate they both value her and are willing to do the work to be near her. She is not willing, interested, or open to receiving just anyone.
This does not mean she is not willing to radiate out to everyone. Many can bask in the glow of Eros, yet few are desired inside it. Eros and the erotically powered woman want entry to be challenging precisely because few recognize the power and potency as well as the adult qualities that are required to interact with power at this level.
Just like Eros, the erotically powered woman prefers to live free, in an unconstructed and expressed way. There are those who would be intoxicated with what she exudes or who are incapable of handling her with exquisite care and reverence. Such individuals mistake her openness for weakness. Or, because they cannot possess or control her, want to harm her.
To deny entry in the masculine world is seen as an affront. In the Erotic world, it is the practice of wisdom. The fundamental communication is that what lies within is both potent and precious. Those who would enter need to prove they can conceive of how potent and precious it is and that they are willing, and have the capacity, to tend to it with the care it requires. All of this is hopefully determined at the outset.
To build an energetic moat is to offer access according not to words, promises, or obligations of people-pleasing, but according to behavior. Those who behave in a way that demonstrates genuine respect for Eros are welcomed into the inner sanctum in direct proportion to their behavior. An erotically powered woman wants to exist in her complete sensitivity. She does not feel obligated to suffer those who cannot match that sensitivity.
A woman who is not erotically powered, should she have a taste of Erotic power, will give that power to the first person who fits her preferences and finds her attractive. She will give away the whole store. To give away power without having someone demonstrate facility with it is bribing them to like or love her with her most precious resource. It is the Erotic version of casting pearls before swine.
The erotically powered woman has no problem with having the people in her life work for entry. She recognizes the preciousness of what she holds and has the backbone to protect it. This exalted quality degrades into being a barrier when someone has been hurt and doesn't want that to happen again. A moat is built by a woman who has jewels inside. She wants any who enter to have the capacity to appreciate the honor of being in proximity to the jewels she offers.