Pressure or fixed tumescence feels like presence and stability. In an Erotic sense, fixed energy is very sensory and physical, with a feeling of being in your body, having contact, and of landing—groundedness, containment, and safety. Fixed is driven by the desire to be on the spot. Fixed has a drive for accuracy and the resonance that results from precision. Finding the spot requires us to manage our ego so we don’t give up. It requires us to man- age our attention so we don’t lose the energy we need to penetrate into the spot. It requires us to have endurance to keep searching.
There are places in the world that are universal sanctuaries. And within each of us exists an essential self. Fixed/pressure has a desire to find these sanctuaries and these places of essential expression. When skillfully channeled, the search for ground becomes independent of conditions. By dissolving preferences, as a fixed type, we find greater balance, and all experience becomes equally impactful.
There’s a false idea that we can’t have dynamic attention and stability. As a fixed or pressure person, we can find a deeper stability that is independent of preferences. For example, we have a preference for a slower speed of physical connection and so the antidote is to enter into an uncomfortable situation where the speed is fast, and yet where we still find internal stability. We assume stability has to be rigid and immovable, so in the preceding example, as a fixed person, we would have to slow down our internal speed even more.
However, when we become profoundly dynamic we also become incredibly stable; we can land wherever we go. So, as a fixed/pressure person, we can go into a faster speed and don’t have to be attached to slow internal speed. We can release that need and find a different kind of stillness by going at the speed that is happening around us.
This kind of stable attention has the ability to neither hover, avoid, nor smother when it comes into contact with another person. Instead, this attention is just precisely with, so it is able to meet the unique conditions and that meeting in uniqueness is a critical component of intimacy.
When we deem some things worthy and some things not, our attention is profoundly dictated by preferences. Only by liberating our preferences do we get stability in all conditions.
The antidote is to add in a pressure greater than the existing pressure in order to reach the naked consciousness beneath the surface, and until the tendency exhausts itself and can connect to neutral power. The neutral aspect of power is vital as this consciousness will fixate by nature. This consciousness thrives on deprivation, restriction, and isolation, so a progressive introduction of enjoyment, flow-based activities, and perpetual immersion with others is needed in order for that mind to come out of itself.
