I’ve always loved pleasing my partner in sex, but there was always this underlying worry that she would feel compelled to reciprocate. Like, “He’s doing this for me, and now I should do something for him.” I never wanted a woman to feel obligated to please me, as that tainted whatever we did. In Orgasmic Meditation, I realized for the first time that that didn’t have to be an issue. When you’re OMing, both partners know that there’s no reciprocating. You are inside a shared experience and both in a receptive position because of the feedback loop between you.
Orgasmic Meditation isn’t sex, even though I thought it was when I first started. It’s just this simple practice of stroking the upper right quadrant of a woman’s clit for 15 minutes. That’s it. And so much enjoyment for everyone can come from that one action. Orgasmic Meditation (OM) has shown me that the most important things aren’t complicated. One little stroke can bring so much happiness, and all I need to do is focus on doing that one thing. It’s taught me that life is so much simpler than I thought.
What I’ve learned in Orgasmic Meditation has changed my life in other ways as well. I’ve always had ADHD, and it’s caused many problems in the past. It cost me jobs and many career opportunities. I never had much filter on what came out of my mouth. If I didn’t like what a boss was doing, I’d tell him sooner rather than later. I couldn't hold back even if it would cost me a paycheck. I got fired more than once.
OM has changed everything; it has helped me connect to what the people around me need. They don’t need me to mouth off, even if I am right about whatever the problem is. When I’m practicing Orgasmic Meditation, I can focus my attention on the clitoris and keep it simple. I’m a carpenter; carpentry is like OM, I’ve realized. It works best when you focus on one thing at a time and enjoy the work you’re doing with your hands.
I also work at a big home improvement store, so there is much opportunity to help people. I’m needed all day long. Orgasmic Meditation has made it possible for me to connect with what these people need from me and keep quiet about what they don’t. And it’s not like I’m biting my tongue either; I’m not stewing. I’m just able to offer my attention and serve.
Another thing I wanted to mention is that before Orgasmic Meditation (OM)—I focused so much on sex and dating that I didn’t always make time for other kinds of relationships. I’ve also discovered that I really enjoy singing, and a couple of years ago, I joined a men’s choir. I love singing with these guys, and like everything else since I started OMing, it works best when I just keep it simple. I’m not thinking about anything else when I’m with the choir; we’re just focused on doing our best to bring people joy in that moment.
I wanted to share one breakthrough I recently had. I OMed recently with a woman I’d never met before. We were introduced through mutual friends. We shook hands, introduced ourselves, and then she took off her pants and lay down. We had our OM. When it was over, she put on her pants, we shook hands again and said goodbye. To me, this illustrates that you can have intimacy without obligation. You can have a connection without romance. It's not that romance is bad—they’re just two different things. Through Orgasmic Meditation, I can see the intricacies of relating more clearly now. It’s an incredible revelation; I wish more people could have it.
