I want to begin with my disclaimer: I don’t sell finite relationships.
In fact, I’m probably the worst person to ask about conventional relationship advice. So, I have to be clear that if you want to know how to have a happy, long-term, traditional relationship, I don’t have those answers. It’s simply not what I do.
With that context, here’s what I practice:
Don’t “build a foundation” with anyone. Instead, remove every foundation you think you have—strip it all away.
Dismantle the scaffolding of control, identity, and future plans. Let go of the roles—partner, lover, spouse—that were designed to create safety, but often end up suffocating the aliveness.
Let go of the question, “Where is this going?” and instead ask, “Can I feel you here, now?” This is not about building a structure you can hide inside. It’s about being in the raw current of what’s real, moment to moment.
From there, make your one aim be: I am for this person. I am for their freedom under any condition. If this form passes, if their karma shifts, or their needs change in order to open and evolve, I will adapt.
I will throw the celebration for whatever transformation they go through. Even if it breaks my heart. Even if it takes them away from me. Because being for someone means choosing their expansion over your comfort.
It means loving at the level of soul, not form. It means staying in contact with what’s true, not what’s convenient.
This is the path of infinite relating. It’s not measured in milestones or guarantees, but in moments of contact. It’s not about what we build, but how deeply we enter before it’s gone.
